It’s been said that your level of expectation has an inverse, yet very accurate effect on your level of serenity. Some people have taken this beautiful concept and totally fucked it up. They take it to mean if you expect shit, at least you won’t be disappointed when you get shit. What actually happens though when you expect shit, is you get shit, because you pick shit out of the ether to show up in your life. You don’t see the beauty so you pass it by like it never even existed, when really it’s been all around you all along.
Keeping expectations low doesn’t mean expect poor things to happen, it means expect nothing and handle everything. The more you’re focused on what you should be getting, the less able you are to handle what’s actually on your plate. When you can’t handle what’s on your plate it feels like it’s too much, even if it’s only a little. It’s like putting a full plate of food in front of somebody who’s starving versus putting a tiny bit of food in front of somebody who’s stuffed to the rafters. You get the point right?
Trust yourself to be able to handle life as it happens and when the going gets rough, get going. Make a move. If your thoughts are the problem, the action MUST be the solution. Einstein said that the same mind that created the problem can’t be the same one to fix it. The problems of the world will not be solved by the world. The problems that YOU have manufactured to feel interesting or have something to do, will not be solved by the same brain that created them. They can, however, be turned around by some right action. We all know what this is, yet we seldom engage in it because we think that will render us useless or boring. Little do you realize how quickly life will bring you problems to solve all by itself without you creating your own. The world is unpredictable though, and it brings different problems all the time, and that is why we’re attracted to creating issues to deal with that are, at the very least, familiar.
With this style of living, it’s easy to feel victimized and that we’re not getting our fair share of freedom to live how we want. I heard a woman say recently “Live as good as you can, but don’t expect everything to always be easy just because you’re doing the right thing. And when you find yourself in a pit, don’t decorate it. Ask for a ladder.”
Ask for a ladder. And use it.