We are not a glum lot, but we are highly sensitive bunch of people aren’t we? We can be offended at the drop of a hat or catch a resentment off of somebody else’s resentment. Hell, we are so sensitive we can even feel OTHER people’s feelings! Isn’t that something?
It’s something alright, but it ain’t something good. Feeling other people’s feelings and projecting emotions onto a situation, a friend, or even a dog, can be very confusing and often times way off base. The relief comes when you realize that not only do you not have the power to feel other people’s emotions, you no longer need to. Yours are more than enough. I think our history as a group has proven to us that our emotions are more than enough for us to handle, which is perhaps why we, in an attempt to deflect attention away from our most glaring weakness, put the blame on other people’s emotional inadequacies.
I, personally, have given up feeling other people’s emotions. I realize that what I feel is based almost entirely on my present mood and my historic reaction to said person, place, thing, or event. So if my feelings are based on my mood and my experience, what makes me think that I know what you’re feeling? Delusions of grandeur, that’s what. We think that if we feel a certain way about something, then everybody else probably does too. After all, we are right about how we feel. This is a half truth, because although we are definitely entitled to have our feelings, but that doesn’t mean that everybody else is entitled to have our feelings too. What might jam me up might roll off another person’s back, and vice versa. On top of that, what might jam me up today and not matter to you, might piss you off and not affect me tomorrow.
It’s just too confusing and daunting of a proposition for me to get inside your heart, but the real danger comes when I try to get inside your head. THAT is a dangerous position for anybody to be in, especially somebody that can barely handle their own feelings.
My advice to you, is figure out how YOU feel about a situation first, before you go around with absolute surety assigning emotional states to other people. Master your own emotions, and then perhaps after that, I’ll let you tell me how I should be feeling.